Smart enough, thin enough, athletic enough, creative enough, etc…
The list could go on forever.
I believe the majority of people at one time or another has felt as if they weren’t enough of something, and I am no exception.
I have been thinking about this frequently and I have come to the conclusion that this feeling of not being enough _____ comes from one thing, success. What is success to you? Is it money…followers…friends? Is it finally getting to the top of your company? For many people who work in ministry, success can be seen as the number of people attending worship and church events. This is the easiest way for people to “measure” your success.
This past year I have been a part of a continuing education class called the Leadership Initiative. One of the key discussion points we have covered this year is focusing on the wins. Wins are not numbers. A win is when I see the youth I work with put together the ideas we have been discussing all year. A win is seeing them step into leadership positions and be a Christ like example to their friends and family. A win is seeing these kids open up to each other about the real issues occurring in their lives, and seeing trust grow between them. Wins are not things we can measure. Wins are passed on by telling others about the growth, trust and faith that are building within the group. Numbers do not equal success.
When I start looking at numbers or comparing what I’m doing with my youth compared to what other youth directors are doing, that is when the “not enough” feelings come up. Not creative enough…not doing enough…not good enough. Not as good as _____ at _______. I don’t have the same gift sets as others, but others might not have some of the same gifts that I have. God gave each of us different gifts for a reason. It would be so boring if we were all good at the same things. You could have 5 different people work with the same group of kids and they would get something different from each of the 5 leaders. How awesome is that?
Paul writes in his letter to the Romans, “We have different gifts according to the grace given us. If a man’s gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully” (Romans 12:6-8). We are made uniquely!
Whenever we start having those “not enough” feelings, remember that success is not a dollar amount. Success is not the number of followers you have on Instagram or the amount of the people who show up to an event. Success is the way we are using the gifts that God has given us and having the confidence to be our own unique selves. No one can impact the world in the same way you can. Don’t ever feel like your gifts aren’t enough. They are.